Carol Howell Talks Dementia: Dementia and “Nesting”

Look closely at the picture. Do you see the bird perched in its nest? This Momma bird will soon have little baby birds to show for her efforts. She is “nesting,” and she seems very intent.

My Momma has a “nesting” quality about her. She loves to be home. Momma has mid-stage Alzheimer’s, and she has lived in her assisted living community for over six years. She is so very content and happy. She likes nothing more than to be in her apartment, enjoying her life, and experiencing the feelings of security that come from living there. (Okay, actually, Momma likes SLEEPING better than everything in the world, but that is a subject for another day).

I offer free assistance to families seeking an assisted living or memory care community for their loved one. I offer this to people all over the country. So give me a call if you are thinking of making the move (Carol 803-984-9875). But if you are NOT thinking of making the move, I wonder if you might should reconsider.

Studies show individuals with dementia live longer and have a better quality of life if they live in an assisted living or group home setting. Why is this true? It is almost impossible for the average family to offer the same care available in a GOOD assisted living on a consistent basis, keep the meals cooked, the laundry tasks completed, the house clean, errands run, AND plan appropriate activities for each day. This would require a Wonder Woman to accomplish. Add to that the necessity to hold down jobs and raise children—and the tasks becomes almost impossible to handle.

Assisted Living communities offer all this and more. When an individual with dementia is able to participate in life with folks who are similar to them, receive good nutrition three times a day, have scheduled appropriate activities, and medications are given at the same time each day without delay, we experience a person who is more in touch with life than they previously were.

Nesting and contentment are part of our lives from our early days. Your loved one with dementia will fare better if the decision to move to an assisted living is made as early as possible. Don’t wait until you are forced to make the move because health declines so drastically that skilled nursing care is needed. Make the move while your loved one can form friendships and develop a “life” at their new assisted living home.

I am thrilled to help you find the best community for your budget, arrange the tours, help negotiate discounts, and see if there is any money available to help with the expenses. Remember—My service is FREE! Give me a call: Carol 803-984-9875.

Hope that gives you Something to Ponder.

Photo by Bruce Tuten via Flickr