Often times individuals will write metaphorically. The term “unlocking doors” can hold a myriad of meanings. Today, however, I want to write about unlocking doors, literally.
Momma has mid-stage Alzheimer’s. Her disease is progressing, and this progression is advancing her dementia. She cannot remember things from one minute to the next. She will ask the same question repeatedly. As her caregivers, we understand her limitations, and we love her through the situations of life.
Recently, Momma had an new issue. Momma lives in an assisted living and she carries the key to her apartment on a bracelet she wears. This has been her method of keeping track of her key for over six years. One particular Sunday morning, my younger sister, Verona, was helping Momma prepare to attend church. When they left Momma’s apartment to go to the dining room, the return trip was startling for Verona. Momma could not get her key in the door. She tried, repeatedly, but the ability to discern the way the key should be turned, or how to maneuver the key, became a problem. Verona helped, and the issue was resolved. After church, the problem occurred again. Even though we understand Dementia and Alzheimer’s, even though we expect to see a decline, even though we smile throughout the changes we see, our hearts hurt when we experience Momma’s abilities change. We want nothing more than to keep her at the level she is today, but, outside of a miracle from God, Momma will continue to decline. As a family, we will continue to love her…no matter what.
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Carol Howell is a Certified Dementia Specialist and Endorsed Life Coach with an emphasis on Creative Music Experiences. After her husband’s closed-head injury in 1996 and her mother’s diagnosis of Alzheimer’s in 2006, Carol began her study of the brain and the various forms of dementia that exist. Through her not-for profit company, Senior Life Journeys, she is actively involved in the lives of individuals who are caregiving for a loved-one with dementia as she helps them develop caregiving techniques. Carol’s latest book, Let’s Talk Dementia-A Caregiver’s Guide, is an Amazon #1 Best Seller, and it is an easy to read guide for caregivers of individuals with dementia. She also wrote the best seller If My Body Is A Temple, Why Am I Eating Doughnuts? It tells of the amazing miracle that caused her to lose 100 pounds. You can follow her blog—Something to Ponder—at www.seniorlifejourneys.com.